Trans man who gave birth to a boy now says he is being shut-out and isolated by LGBTQ community and asking 'where do I fit'

A transgender man who gave birth to a boy has claimed he is being shut-out and isolated by the LGBTQ community. 
Ja’Mel Ware, from Atlanta, gave birth to his child in May 2022 but said he has struggled to fit in as a new father and that he feels alone. 
He shared his grievances at a workshop that was part of The Human Rights Campaign Foundation's Transgender Justice Initiative.

Ware spoke to non-profit news website The 19th along with seven other black transgender men and questioned 'Where do I fit?'
The group pointed to gay cisgender men as being problematic and felt the LGBTQ community often doesn't stand up for them even though they are part of the queer identity.

A transgender man who gave birth to a boy has claimed he is being shut-out and isolated by the LGBTQ community

Ja’Mel Ware, pictured with his partner Alphonso Mills (right), gave birth to his child in May 2022 but says he has struggled to fit in as a new father and that he feels alone

Ware, who is from Atlanta, shared his grievances at a workshop that was part of The Human Rights Campaign Foundation's Transgender Justice Initiative

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'I’ve been struggling over this past year and a half, almost two years now. It’s like, where do I fit,' Ware said at the workshop.

'Because a lot of trans men don’t want to be open about their queerness,” he said. “I also have a child that I carried. … Every time I walk into a room, I feel alone.'

Another member of the group, Alex Santiago, claimed men do not call him 'bro' after they find out he is transgender and said he felt more scrutinized within LGBTQ spaces. 

'That’s a weird space to be in, but it happens more often than not,' he said.

C.J. Moseley agreed with Santiago and D’Jamel Young added they were often viewed as 'too masculine to be queer'. 

Ware shared his journey through pregnancy on Instagram. He is seen smiling with his partner Alphonso Mills while they show off his bump, celebrating with friends and family at their baby shower and then cuddling with their son. 

He was featured in an AJ+ report last year and shared his experience as a pregnant man in Atlanta

Ware transitioned from female to male at 22 and struggled with his identity while he was carrying his son

Ware was featured in an AJ+ report last year and shared his experience as a pregnant man in Atlanta. 

Ware transitioned from female to male at 22 and struggled with his identity while he was carrying his son. 

'It made me question my identity. How does the world now see me?', he told AJ+.

'How will they see me? Will they understand who I am? Pregnant women are celebrated. Trans people are not.

'And to be a pregnant trans man just made me feel vulnerable in the world.' 

He describes himself as an 'actor, entrepreneur, public speaker, advocate, and educator' on his website. 

Ware began traveling across the country aged seven but was orphaned at 15. 

He said he centers himself through his belief in God and lives by the motto 'Live Life Whole. Be your complete self, and live life fully' to achieve success.