Liz you are absolutely right. Never apologize for what you feel and experience. That's called"Life" and some people are quick to judge what they don't know nor understand. That's classic ignorance according to Webster's dictionary.
Mr 1 stroke...I apologize...I am not a feminist. I just wanted to give a little insight. I am a widow and very self sufficient. I was not looking for anyone to take from rather to enhance the life I have with them. Yes I have 1 child and I also work for our child abuse Dept for many years. Some women and men are not aware of what their lives decisions cause for their little ones...most of the time due to lack of guidance from their parents. I didn't have a child until I was 28. I thought that majority of men with kids are just using women like me at the time to impregnate then leave so I kept myself safe...I thought. I ended up marrying a man who had 3 kids previously. He gave me his heart and that was what I wanted. I didn't realize that I was judging men based on my bad experiences or knowing others who had them. He passed 3 years ago and as a single woman I knew men would judge me because I had a child. It's what negative experiences men have with the wrong woman based on looking at her physical body and forgetting to look for something deeper than that moment...js
Mr 1 Stroke I understand your feelings about women with children. However all women who have kids are not the same. There are some women who are widows...good women who take care of their children and themselves. These same women deserve a second chance at love also. There are some women who have old fashioned values and morals and live by them. You might turn your head away because she has a child and miss out on a good woman. Also a mother would not be out advertising get herself physically. She would be acting as a mother and enjoying her kids not attempting to attract attention. Just saying.
mr1stroke - I'm understanding and realistic because that makes it easier to live in this world -- By seeing things for exactly what they are, you're never caught off guard... (But I know you already understand that)...
mr1stroke, I hope you know that all liars, homosexuals, murderers, thieves, lovers of self more than lovers of the God who created us, and all sinners are condemned to hell. The bible has never been wrong on anything yet. This will happen. Will happen to all sinners who have to pay for their own sin. God has revealed His plan to save all sinners who accept His offer of forgiveness. Jesus paid for your sin if u accept His payment. He does not wish for any to perish (2 Peter, chapt 3, verse 9). Those who reject the Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ's offer of forgiveness are cursed forever. And you don't have to worry abt changing your ways before allowing Him to save you. God will save you just as you are. Then He is the one who has the power to make you a new creature, not you. He wants u to be a real Believer, not a pretend Christian like so many we know. You don't have to listen to any Godless preaching. Read the scriptures for yourself and talk to God directly. I must be obedient to my heavenly Father, so I'm praying for you.
Now I need clarity here one min. U r saying that black women need to wear their natural hair the way God blessed us with , then why is it okay with u for black women to relax or flat iron their hair that's not a natural state . To take it a little further since u believe black women being natural keep 100 all the way not half the way ,why do men wear certain things to enhance themselves oh I know its ok because u r man . Wow
Hi Mr 1 Stroke, it's been awhile since I've been on , nice to see I made you laugh.I just like to enjoy life. I stopped commenting on the site because some of the blogs I have read makes me want to choke some of these people.
I met a guy on a dating app. We're both looking for a serious relationship and have been texting for a few weeks. We met in person for the first time today. We both said we wanted to take it slow and not rush into sex. Well...we ended up sleeping together. And after it was over, I half jokingly said he wasn't going to text me anymore. And he jumped up and got dressed really quickly so I thought that was a signal he wanted me to get dressed and leave. He told me it wasn't and that he was going to text me and it hurt his feelings that I thought he was one of "those guys". I told him I was use to dating "those guys" and automatically expected the same from him. He said that I was making him feel awkward and wanted me to leave so I did. I texted him I was sorry for jumping to conclusions and wanted a chance to make it up to him. I haven't heard back.
Despite all of this, I think he's a great guy and this could actually be something. Is there anyway for me to fix this or should I leave it alone?